Why Teach This Early?

Polite words are social lubricant that opens doors throughout life. Children who use polite words are perceived as more likeable and receive more positive responses. These habits, formed early, become automatic.

Progressive Sub-Goals

Introduction

Says polite words when prompted

💡 Tip: Model it yourself constantly: "Thank you for passing the salt." Prompt gently: "What do we say?" Don't withhold things until they say it - that creates resentment.

Developing

Uses polite words with occasional reminders

💡 Tip: Praise when you hear it: "I love how you said please!" Make it a family value, not a rule. Use polite words with them too.

Mastery

Uses polite words consistently without prompting

💡 Tip: Expand to "excuse me," "you're welcome," and "may I." These words become automatic through consistent modeling and practice.

Teaching Tips

1Model polite words yourself - constantly
2Prompt gently, don't demand or withhold
3Praise when you hear polite words
4Make politeness a family value, not a rule

Global Context

British culture emphasizes "please" and "thank you" from toddlerhood. Japanese politeness levels are taught from early childhood. In every culture, polite children receive more positive treatment from adults.